"never mind" i said "both of us have a lot of feelings we need to get out in the open. so if you want to take those feeling and smash somebody with  them, smash me. then we can understand each other better."

"so if you understand me better, what then?"

"you dont get it do you?" I said " its not a question of "what then." some people get a kick out of reading railroad timetables and thats all they do. some people make huge model boats out of matchsticks. so whats wrong if there happens to be one guy in the world who enjoys trying to understand you?"

"kind of like a hobby?" she said, amused.

"sure, i guess you could call it a hobby. most normal people would call it friendship or love or something like that, but if you want to call it a hobby, thats ok, too."

Norwegian Wood

Haruki Murakami